Your Birth as Parents:Who Wrote the Instruction Manual for the Heart?

Let’s talk about that moment when everything changes. Whether you are a mom and a dad,

two moms, or two dads, the second a new baby enters your life, you are born anew as parents. And then, all at once, amidst the joy and excitement, comes a profound realization: this magical being arrived without an instruction manual.

For years, we’ve been taught how to succeed in our careers, manage our time, and crush our goals. But nothing truly prepares us for the raw encounter with the needs of another human being, small, helpless, and 100% dependent on us.

The Map to Understanding Your Child: The Hierarchy of Needs

As a parental coach specializing in Emotional Intelligence, I want to give you a map to navigate this new reality. It’s called "Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs." It offers us a way to understand that, just like a building, you cannot construct the fifth floor before the foundations are poured in concrete. Your baby is driven by two powerful forces. First, there are Deficiency Needs. These are the vital, "must-have" survival needs. When a basic need isn't met, a human or a baby cannot strive upward. It starts with physiological needs like hunger, sleep, and temperature regulation. This is where our soothing blanket comes in. It’s not just an accessory; it’s the first physical envelope that signals to the body: "You are safe, you are cozy, you can relax."

Then comes the Need for Safety. Once the body is calm, the soul seeks an anchor. Our Lapinou bunny doll is much more than a beautiful toy; it becomes a "transitional object," a symbol of stability and security in a new and unfamiliar world.

Emotional Intelligence: The Muscle That Never Stops Growing

Many think Emotional Intelligence is something you’re born with, or something only children need to learn. This is one of the most common mistakes. No one is without it; the spectrum is simply very wide. It is a muscle that can, and sometimes must, be refined throughout our entire lives. As parents, this is our ability to pause amidst the crying and exhaustion and ask: "What does my baby need right now? And what do I need to be able to give it to them?"

When you fulfill those basic deficiency needs, you clear the path for Growth Needs, for creativity, love, and self-actualization. This applies to you too. When you learn to regulate your emotions and identify your own needs, you become the ultimate role model for them.

You Don’t Need to Be Perfect – You Need to Be Present

Parenting is not an exact science; it’s a relationship. There is no universal "right" or "wrong," only the unique rhythm of your family. Your baby doesn't need parents with an instruction manual in their hand; they need parents with emotional intelligence in their heart. In this blog, we will learn together how to strengthen this muscle, understand the unspoken language of needs, and create fertile ground for growth, for our children and for ourselves.

Start Building Your Baby’s Coziest Foundation

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